Deal with Your Fears

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If you become a passive self-observant and observe yourself and your actions intently for a day or two, you will realise that the most dominant feelings of your daily existence is fear. Fear limits and shapes our actions in myriad ways. The way we dress, the way we communicate with the world in general consciously or unconsciously, the way we establish relationships with people and things, the way we take different decisions, accumulate things or form opinions or stand points, are influenced substantially, if not completely, by our self preservation instinct, which in simple term means our concern for survival.

All our efforts in this world are guided by this singular most concern, which has many other guises, our concern for approval, our concern for acceptance, our concern for having the best of everything. It is this concern, which drives us to have more and more of what we already have, in the anxiety that what we have may not be sufficient enough to protect us from scarcity when things go wrong. Fear is therefore the most powerful force we need to understand and use effectively and positively in order to deal with our problems of survival. Especially, when a person is threatened by an adverse condition, he need to understand what fear drives him and guides him or what fear limits him and prevents him from achieving his goals.

What are your fears? Let's comment our fears and get over it. 

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