Listening To Our Language
Because our attitudes and behaviours flow out of our paradigms, if we use our self-awareness to examine them, we can often see in them the nature of our underlying maps. Our language, for example, is a very real indicator of the degree to which we see ourselves as proactive people. The language of reactive people absolves them of responsibility. " That's me. That's just the way I am." I am determined. There's nothing I can do about it. " He makes me so mad !" I'm not responsible. My emotional life is governed by something outside my control. " I can't do that. I just don't have the time." Something outside me --- limited time --- is controlling me. That language comes from a basic paradigm of determinism. And the whole spirit of it is the transfer of responsibility. I am not responsible, not able to choose my response. REACTIVE LANGUAGE PROACTIVE LANGUAGE 1. There’s nothing I can do. Let’s ...