A Relationship That Matters To You The Most....

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If you are happy in life right now, it's not because everything about your life is necessarily going right, but because a relationship that really matters to you is going great.
If you are unhappy in life right now, it's not because everything about your life is going wrong, but because a relationship that really matters to you the most is not going great.
Relationships are like seeds.
They have to be nurtured and developed.
Expectations are like weeds.
They grow on their own accord.
When enough investment goes into building a relationship, the expectations in that relationship can be managed.
When a relationship is left neglected, then the expectations in that relationship shake the very roots of the relationship.
In a relationship where there is a substantial emotional reserve, mistakes will be tolerated and forgiven, the meaning will be understood even when communication is inadequate, and your intentions will be appreciated even if you fall short in your actions.
However, there are some relationships which are taken for granted, the permanence of the relationship is assumed, and nothing is done to nurture the relationship.
Expectations continue to rise, but the investment needed to build the relationship are not made with the same continuity.
The solution is simpler than simple.
Relationships have to be nurtured with the investment of quality time.
Take time to listen and to understand.
As often as possible, communicate to be understood.
Make your love visible by being expressive and demonstrative.
Seek to give, but also be graceful in receiving.
Build a great relationship and thus earn your happiness in life.

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